If you want balance

The only way to find balance is to plan your careers around motherhood, rather than plan careers around motherhood. Accepting motherhood does not mean you are out of the work forrce, it just means we have to be creative to fit work into our children's schedule.

"My children love daycare"

Women nowadays are being told it is alright to go back to work, if that is their choice. That is, to pay other people to raise their children. They do not view raising children as an actual career, there is really no substitute for a parent at home. A child bonds with his mother as part of their daily routine. This relationship is delicate and time sensitive. When children have one adult to depend on, when they hear the same voice talking to them, teaching them every day, they grow to feel worthy of love, secure in who they are and in what they are capable to becoming.

The more hours spent away from parents, the more likely to have behavioural problems.

Children florish when they are unhurried

Children, you know, they take a long time doing what they do, dressing , eating, but we adults move at the speed of light. And we come up with a new way to raise children. We drag them out of bed each morning to make time for child care, so that we can be in the office by a certain time. We no longer feed them 3 meals because it takes too long to prepare and they too slow to eat.

Now we are being taught that quality time matters, not quantity time. We think its fine for mothers to be away from children all day, except they come home at night and spend an hour with the child. We believe that we can raise children with left over time, as if creating an intellectually person don't need much effort. Children are not supposed to fit into our lives, we are supposed to fit into their lives. Waht children need is time and attention, and the undivided loyalty of one adult, preferably mothers.

Balancing Work and Family

It is impossible for mothers to balance work, for the hours they spend at office far outweigh those she spend with her children. This I agree, just yesterday, I saw a guide teaching working mothers how to balance, such as don't bring work home or spend all Sundays making dinners for the week.

Raising children will always be a full time job. No one can successfully perform 2 full-time jobs at the same time. In trying to balance, no matter how hard one tries, it is hard. For if we want to have a balance and enjoy work, marriage, our time, and children, then full-time motherhood is the way to achieve it. Full time motherhood do away with the stress such as work pressure, traffic and lack of time. The beauty of full time motherhood, is that it is flexible, there is no rush, no boss to answer to , no deadlines, and all that is worth giving up a paycheck.One is not more fulfilled as a result of working, The only way that a working mother has time is to quit her job, and get in the business of raising our children.

Now on the question of guilt one feels when she has to leave my child in someone care. If she were a full time mom, having a mother in law look after while one go for a break, it is okay because the child has the undivided attention most of the time. But if you leave your child all day, every day while someone did the work of the motherhood, one can feel guilty

Why I start this blog

Ever since I had Caleb, I did a lot of reading on how to strike a balance between motherhood and work. Books were a source of comfort, assurance and inspiration, and they reflected some moms, and dads' experiences. I had followed some of the advice given in these books. Since I love to read, I have decided to do summaries of the books I read,and like to share with you. These are the precious thoughts I have gathered , and hopefully can give you some inspiration, just as they have inspired me.

"7 Myths of Working Mothers - Why Children and (Most) Careers Don't Mix - Suzanne Venker"

I borrowed this book from the library last week, and have picked up a lot of useful facts about motherhood and children. I will attempt to sum up the key points for your "reading summary" without you reading the book your self. I will extract meaningful quotes that leave an impact in me.