If you want balance

The only way to find balance is to plan your careers around motherhood, rather than plan careers around motherhood. Accepting motherhood does not mean you are out of the work forrce, it just means we have to be creative to fit work into our children's schedule.

"My children love daycare"

Women nowadays are being told it is alright to go back to work, if that is their choice. That is, to pay other people to raise their children. They do not view raising children as an actual career, there is really no substitute for a parent at home. A child bonds with his mother as part of their daily routine. This relationship is delicate and time sensitive. When children have one adult to depend on, when they hear the same voice talking to them, teaching them every day, they grow to feel worthy of love, secure in who they are and in what they are capable to becoming.

The more hours spent away from parents, the more likely to have behavioural problems.

Children florish when they are unhurried

Children, you know, they take a long time doing what they do, dressing , eating, but we adults move at the speed of light. And we come up with a new way to raise children. We drag them out of bed each morning to make time for child care, so that we can be in the office by a certain time. We no longer feed them 3 meals because it takes too long to prepare and they too slow to eat.

Now we are being taught that quality time matters, not quantity time. We think its fine for mothers to be away from children all day, except they come home at night and spend an hour with the child. We believe that we can raise children with left over time, as if creating an intellectually person don't need much effort. Children are not supposed to fit into our lives, we are supposed to fit into their lives. Waht children need is time and attention, and the undivided loyalty of one adult, preferably mothers.